There are moments when I catch myself reacting in ways that don't match the
current situation:

shrinking
fixing
freezing
appeasing
overfunctioning
numbing
running
checking out

These aren't random behaviors.

They are survival patterns that once protected me—
and now limit me.

Healing them isn't about blaming the past.
It's about updating the system for the life I have now.

You learned your survival responses for a reason.

Maybe you grew up:

These patterns helped you survive environments you never should've been in.

But they were built for a past that no longer exists.

Healing requires rewriting them.

Awareness is the doorway to change.

Ask:

You can't heal what you won't name.

Because trauma lives in the body, healing must involve the body.

Regulation tools include:

These techniques teach your body that the present is not the past.

Reparenting means:

This is slow work
but transformative.

Healing isn't the absence of old patterns.
It's the presence of new choices.

Try:

Each small shift rewires your emotional architecture.

Healing survival patterns doesn't mean erasing them—it means updating them so
your protection no longer requires self-abandonment.